Recovery Coach . Speaker . Consultant
Shawn Bonneteau
My work helps men and leaders understand the patterns connected to compulsive pornography use so they can move forward with confidence, integrity, and lasting change.
Consultant
Develop thoughtful recovery programs that help leaders address compulsive pornography use with clarity, depth, and integrity.
Speaker
Keynotes and workshops for churches and organizations on pornography recovery, biblical wholeness, and self leadership.
Coach
One-to-one coaching for men navigating compulsive pornography use, emotional patterns, and self-leadership under pressure.
Educator
A growing library of conversations and resources designed to help men understand their struggles and build mature, responsible lives
Trusted by Ministries, Organizations, and Leaders
Areas of Focus
My work focuses on the deeper patterns connected to compulsive pornography use and the ways they can undermine integrity over time. Rather than surface-level accountability, the approach centers on emotional maturity and lasting internal formation.
This work forms men who don’t rely on willpower alone, but learn to depend on Christ while responding with clarity, confidence and maturity in high-pressure moments.
Key areas include:
Compulsive Pornography Use & Recovery
Addressing pornography use and related compulsive patterns through a framework that prioritizes emotional awareness, emotional maturity, self leadership, and long-term freedom rather than shame-based control.
Emotional Maturity Under Pressure
Helping individuals remain steady and present, while maintaining the right direction in moments of stress, fatigue, or temptation.
Leadership and Responsibility
Helping men develop greater self-leadership and learn to respond wisely rather than reactively, especially when emotions or impulses run high.
Integrity, Formation, and Character
Focusing on the kind of inner formation that sustains faithfulness, trust, and consistency in both personal life and leadership roles.
How this work is Applied
This work integrates into coaching practices, ministry environments, and organizational settings where long-term formation matters. It provides a grounded coaching framework for helping men navigate compulsive pornography use while developing emotional maturity, spiritual integrity, and personal responsibility.
The approach adapts for individual coaching, group training, workshops, and keynote speaking, always with respect for existing leadership and pastoral structures.
The goal is not independence, but mature dependence on Christ forming men who can remain steady, obedient, and clear minded when pressure rises.
Coaching practices
Helping individuals understand the patterns connected to compulsive pornography use. Focused on emotional maturity, self-leadership, and long-term change rather than behaviour management alone
Organization & Ministries
Delivered as workshops or trainings for organizations, ministries, or teams. Focused on addressing integrity, emotional maturity, and sustainable behavior change in high-pressure environments.
Conferences & Events
Engaging keynotes and presentations addressing compulsive pornography use in the church, and pornography recovery for Christians. Focused on impacting individuals, relationships, leaders and churches as a whole.
Professional teams
Consulting and collaboration with individuals or organizations who are seeking deeper, coaching informed approaches to pornography recovery. Teaching practical skills for navigating high pressure situations and building healthy accountability.
Experience and Credibility
This work is informed by years of hands on coaching, lived experience, and continued learning. It is shaped by real conversations, real struggles, and real success stories
- Over 3,000 coaching sessions focused on compulsive pornography use and recovery.
- Specialized training in pornography recovery, Inner Child work, mentoring, and story-informed coaching
- Extensive experience walking with men through pornography recovery and integrity formation
- A clarity first approach that helps men understand heart level patterns and turn that awareness into behavior change.
- Experience supporting, coaching, and training leaders to develop cultures of awareness, maturity, and integrity
- Approach grounded in biblical theoloy, spiritual formation, and practical skill development
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Trusted by Listeners and Leaders Worldwide
Feedback from listeners and leaders reflects the clarity, compassion, and practical impact of this work.
⭐ “Incredible Resource” – “The words of hope and life that Shawn and Helena bring are so powerful… Their focus is much more on the freedom that can come from being free from a pornography addiction… Every episode is drenched in grace for what has happened in the past and hope for the future.” — Listener, Apple Podcasts
⭐ “The mentors I Wish I Had" Shawn and Helena are the wise, kind couple I wish I had in my life when I was younger. This podcast allows anyone to benefit from the amazing lessons God has taught them about all kinds of sexual brokenness and how to truly heal. I highly recommend this incredible resource! — Listener, Apple Podcasts⭐ “Worth every listen” – “There cannot be enough of this! I immediately shared this podcast with my sisters and friends. Thank you for your work!” — Listener, Apple Podcast
⭐ “Must Discuss Topics” – “This podcast is a breath of fresh air… Bravo for bringing this to light and taking on the topic in a fun and engaging manner.” —Listener, Apple Podcasts
Overall Rating: ⭐ 5 out of 5 stars from 121 ratings
Real Stories from Coaches, Pastors, and Leaders
These stories reflect the kind of clarity, safety, and integrity leaders experience when shame is removed and formation is taken seriously.
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Coaching, Not Therapy
Secret Habit provides coaching and educational support focused on compulsive pornography use, behavior change, personal responsibility, and spiritual growth. Coaching is not psychotherapy, psychological counselling, psychological diagnosis, or mental-health treatment.